Saturday, September 8, 2018

The Treasure of a Woman



We search, we try hard, we seek.  We feel overworked and overwhelmed.  Life is exhausting, but it shouldn't be defeating.

Each woman possesses a treasure, but few unlock the chest it's contained in.  This is not about a quick or temporary fix.  It's real.  It's lasting.  it can be yours.  Just watch out for pirates.

We can find this buried treasure of beauty within ourselves by knowing

1. Where to dig
2. What to look for
3. Protecting ourselves against pirates.

What are the three words any woman wants to hear?


YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL

We as women love affirmation and encouragement.  If I asked you to look at a photo of yourself at a young age what would you tell yourself?

Would you tell her all the things you say when you look in the mirror? 

a. You're too fat
b. You're ugly
c. You're stupid
d. You can't do anything right

What would you tell this girl?

You would hug her and tell her that she IS beautiful, that she CAN do anything she sets her mind to

Phil $:13 
For I can do everything through Christ who strengthens me (NLT)  Nothing is impossible when we turn to God.
You would also tell this girl that God created her.  

Isaiah 44:2 says  "This is the word of the Lord your Maker who formed you from the womb.  Not only has he created you,  He has created you in His own image!  Gen 1:27 " God created man in his own image; He created him in the image  of God; 

Ladies, God does not make mistakes!  If we don't like our image what are we saying about God?  Honestly, how many of us are at peace with our image?  Can you look in the mirror and like what you see?

I used to avoid looking in the mirror as much as possible, I was a person who didn't like having her picture taken.  What changed my thoughts?   It was when I looked at the pictures of my beautiful girls and realized how much they looked at me and how beautiful they are.   How can I tell them that they are beautiful if I keep rejecting the fact that God created me in His image?  What am I teaching my girls? Am I teaching them to do the same?

Worldly Beauty - Where not to look.

So what defines beauty?

According to Webster's Dictionary beautiful is defined as having qualities of beauty: exciting, aesthetic pleasure.

We can look around us every day and see this, it is in advertising, magazines and on television, social media and billboards. 

The world would love to tell us

How we should act
What to wear
and How to look.

Let's face it everywhere we look, whether online or in person at stores we are bombarded with anti-wrinkle products, hair products and showing us the clothing we SHOULD be wearing.  This leaves us wanting more and making us feel we are not good enough.  The world is self-serving and prideful.  The world wants us to believe it's all about ME.  We see women being obsessed bt a self-image that fits the world's view; pushing them to a never-ending" pursuit on an elusive goal that leads them to a breaking point.  They are robbed of the true joy of being the woman God created them to be.   They eventually suffer from low self-esteem because they can't keep up with the world's expectations.

The Bible tells us not to conform to the world

RRomans 12:1-2 "Therefore , brothers, by the mercies of God, I urge you to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God; this is your spiritual worship.  Do not be conformed to this age, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may discern what is the good, pleasing and perfect will of God."

We are to alter our thinking, by meditating on God's word and "renewing" our minds.  We can do this by constantly being in the Word, reading our Bibles.

Biblical or Godly Beauty Where Should We Look

How does the Bible look at beauty?
1 Peter 3:3 says  " Don't be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes.  

Peter certainly said a mouthful here.  If we investigate the culture of the time, a husband's wealth was defined by how elaborate their wives hair was, braiding gold and jewels into their hair and displaying how expensive their clothing was.  Basically, the women were "one-upping" each other.  Keeping up with the Jones's so to speak.  Now, this doesn't mean that we can't wear jewelry or get our hair done oe Wear nice clothes,  God wants us to look after ourselves and have a tidy appearance.  Just do everything in moderation! At times we tend to substitute external things for the right behavior or attitude.  What Peter wants us to focus on is our inward character as he points out in the following verse:  1 Peter 3:4 You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious to God.  
What is this gentle and quiet spirit?
Gentle means not isnsestent one's own rights' or not pushy, not selfishly assertive, not demanding one's own way.

Matthew Henry says "the finest ornament of Christian women is a meek and quiet spirit, a tractable easy temper of mind, void of passion, pride and immoderate anger, discovering itself in a quiet obliging behavior toward their husbands and families."  

Look at Sari/ Sarah, in Gen 12, she followed Abraham into the desert, was taken into the haram of  Pharoah all without any complaint!

scripture says a woman that has an internal heart attitude of meekness or gentleness and a quiet spirit has a beauty that is imperishable.
It's a beauty that will never fade away.
It's a beauty that you don't have to go through all kinds of cosmetic surgery or makeup routines to preserve.  It's something that gets sweeter and richer and more beautiful as you age.  

A woman who is gentle understands at the deepest level God is in control.  She doesn't have to be anxious about her circumstances because she knows God loves her.  She has the incorruptible, never fading beauty that beautifies the soul, that is, the graces and virtues of God's Holy Spirit.

The Hidden Gems

Gal 5:22  "But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.  There is no law against these things"  NLT

What are the hidden gems of Galatians 5:22?  Diamonds in the rough are geodes, just a normal looking rock until you break it open... inside is the real beauty of the rock!

You are defined by  your cut, color, carat, and clarity... you are the diamond in the making, and that requires time, heat and pressure.   God uses the time, heat and pressures of life to refine us and shape us.  Every little trouble, every hard day, every irritable person we deal with is a refining process for us.

Diamonds are beautiful and are the hardest known naturally occurring mineral.  However, what most of us like best about the mineral is the way it sparkles.  When we are the Christian women God intended us to be, we can sparkle and shine.  Diamonds don't start out beautiful, they are formed deep in the earth.  It's just like when we come to Christ for salvation.  We come from deep within sin.  Ask any jeweler and they will tell you that one of the characteristics of a diamond is clarity.  This is whether there is the presence of any impurities or inclusions in the diamond.  As a Christian, others may not see our impurities or our sins because it may not be visible with the naked eye, but we must remember that for us to really sparkle for Christ we must allow Him to reflect through us. 

There is another precious gem, the pearl.  God takes a grain of sand and changes it into a pearl.  Peals come from oysters, what God does is he places the sand in the oyster and the sand becomes an irritant to the oyster.  The oyster than forms a protective coating around the sand and the pearl is formed.  God works the same way to build our characters into a beautiful precious gem!  And, we are more precious than any pearl.

Inside of us are some very precious gems: love, joy, peace, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.  In Galatians 5:19-21, we see the carnal, worldly attributes of human nature:  " When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, the results are very clear: sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures, idolatry, sorcery, hostility, quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, division, envy, drunkenness, wild parties, and other sins like these".NLT
We must believe in Jesus, that He died and rose again to take our sins away, to have the indwelling of the Holdy Spirit.  It's the Holy Spirit within us that produces the fruit we need for living a life that reflects these precious gems in our life.

Gentleness characterizes godly women.

When Peter speaks specifically to women about the need for gentleness, exhorting us to have "gentle and quiet spirits", he is warning women particularly against seeking beauty in outward appearance. Gentleness for women means trusting God for the things in life that can lead to fear, including the fear that comes with the comparison.  When our outward appearance, whether physical beauty or social behaviors. begins to consume our thoughts, we are trusting in ourselves to produce attraction, friendship, respect an approval.

In God's sight, the woman who trusts Him fully and rests in Him is full of precious gems and is eternally beautiful!

Yare a chosen and valuable treasure!
You are valuable to God
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Col. 3:12 says "We are God's chosen people holy and dearly loved, clothe yourself with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience". Just like God creates the pearls, diamonds and makes them precious gems we are even more valuable to God.  He has chosen us from the beginning, He knew us before we were formed.   God loves us,  He has chosen us to bring out those hidden treasures to those around us, to be outfitted and adorned with the precious gems of compassion and kindness.   That means we truly care about everyone, we show them the love and mercy that God shows us.  Like the clear and sparkling diamond, we are reflection our savior and all His glory for everyone to see.  

we are to be humble, not thinking ourselves better than the next person.

You are a diamond in the making, and that requires, time, heat and pressure...God will use the trials, blessings, joys, and sadness of life to refine us and shape us into a precious gem.

Satan's Liehe

Remember those pirates I mentioned?  The pirates are the lies we believe.  Paul put it this way "When we were controlled by our old nature, sinful desires were at work within us, and the law aroused these evil desires that produced a harvest of sinful deeds, resulting in death.  But now we have been released from the law, for we died to it and are no longer captive to its power".  Satan is the ruler of this world and he would love nothing more than to make us feel unworthy and unloved.

How many times have you lost your temper?

Your self-control?
Your patience?

It's an ongoing process, isn't it?  Thankfully we have the love of our heavenly Father that keeps us on track.  If we keep in His word every day, and pray, (prayer is a very strong weapon against our enemy)  we can defeat our foe.

The Bible tells you the war has already been won, yet some days you simply feel undone.  The struggle is real!  The enemy of your soul wants you to feel out of control, overwhelmed, outwitted and under-resourced.  When you listen to the lies the enemy, he tries to weave those lies into your marriage, your finances, your relationships, and your health.   Through this, Satan can wreak havoc, steal your joy, kill your hope.  Satan's claim is not to just dull, but to destroy the power of God in your life.

We've all fallen and been banged up by life, we are all broken and flawed.  But, we are still "precious gems" and incredibly valuable because God designed and created us.  On every page, every chapter, and in every book of His Word, God tells you He loves you.  Like a diamond, reflect His light into a dark world in need of a Savior.  The love of God is bigger than your brokenness.  It's stronger than your past regrets and deeper than any failure or fear you may feel.

Let Him love you the way you are.  

Your life may not be perfect, but like the pearl, His love will coat over the irritating sands of life and make a beautiful pearl in your heart.  Remember, it is His love that makes you a lovely precious gem in His sight.










Wednesday, March 8, 2017

International Women's Day




As I look around me and listen to the news I am wondering what does International Women's Day mean? Why should we celebrate it or not celebrate it?

Three years ago I was in the Republic of Georgia (the country, not the state) and I was fortunate to be able to hear my mentor Dorthy Kelly Patterson speak.   What is it I remember most about that?  

Romans 12:11New Living Translation (NLT)

11 Never be lazy, but work hard and serve the Lord enthusiastically.
So... basically that day I learned that I should serve the Lord my God with all my heart, soul and might.   Never give up serving Him.
God gave us (women) a huge role in life.   To raise our children and be a helper to our husbands.  This is serving Him, there is nothing wrong with it, and we should be happy in it.   Of course God will give us seasons to use our gifts, whether it be hospitality, teaching or even bringing in some income to help our spouse.   The main thought is to be happy in who we are in Christ.  
To me that is a daughter to the King,  a help meet to my husband, a mother, a daughter and a sister.  Wonderfully made.

It is so sad that the world and media is trying to tell us otherwise.
Eph 6:7 


Monday, January 11, 2016

Book Review on "The Peaceful Wife"


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There are many books published on how to gave a good marriage.  Marriage is giving selflessly to your partner and giving respect.  God has given men and women devined roles in marriage and the Bible clearly gives us the Godhead; that is God, husband, wife and child.    In this culture we live in it gives us a distorted view of marriage, women seem to precieve that they are to take the lead in marriage, have high paying jobs, and forgetting their roles at home.

April Cassidy claims that she is a type "A" personality.  She was one od rhose women who did things her way, and was the dominant leader of the marriage.  What she found out was that by doing this she was taking the leadership  role away from her husband and hurting her mariage.

This is a book written about her experience in learning to submit biblically to her husband, and she is sharing what she has learned  from this experience.

All in all the book is good, I found it repetitive at times, but it does give some good examples on how to get a shaky marriage back on track.   If I were to rate the book I would give it 2 out of 5 stars.

I received this book free from the publisher. http://www.kregel.com I was not required to write a positive review and the opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

Tuesday, December 15, 2015

The Lion Comic Book Hero Bible


 The Lion Comic Book Hero Bible

  • The Lion Comic Book Hero Bible
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    ISBN: 9780745956176
    Pages: 192
    Publication date: 10-27-2015
    Format: Hardback
    Imprint: Lion Books
    $ 19.95

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    The Lion Comic Book Hero Bible


    A stunning new comic book version of the Bible now given the superhero treatment by the team behind The Lion Graphic Bible and The Manga Bible

    The story of the Bible is a unique tale of origins and cosmic powers; of the ageless battle between good and evil; of human potential and human treachery; and of a Messiah--a savior for the world. This is indeed the stuff that graphic novels are made of. Superheroes are the biggest comic genre of all, with many heroes having their origins in biblical characterization and imagery. This is the first Bible retelling to engage with and challenge the superhero genre.
- See more at: http://www.kregel.com/siku-richard-thomas/the-lion-comic-book-hero-bible-2/#sthash.nEl7yaJU.dpufRead an excerpt
  • The Lion Comic Book Hero Bible
    Product Information
    ISBN: 9780745956176
    Pages: 192
    Publication date: 10-27-2015
    Format: Hardback
    Imprint: Lion Books
    $ 19.95

    BUY BOOK
    Suggested retail price


    Category: Bibles

    The Lion Comic Book Hero Bible


    A stunning new comic book version of the Bible now given the superhero treatment by the team behind The Lion Graphic Bible and The Manga Bible

    The story of the Bible is a unique tale of origins and cosmic powers; of the ageless battle between good and evil; of human potential and human treachery; and of a Messiah--a savior for the world. This is indeed the stuff that graphic novels are made of. Superheroes are the biggest comic genre of all, with many heroes having their origins in biblical characterization and imagery. This is the first Bible retelling to engage with and challenge the superhero genre.
- See more at: http://www.kregel.com/siku-richard-thomas/the-lion-comic-book-hero-bible-2/#sthash.nEl7yaJU.dpuf



 This is an interesting new version of the Bible, the authors have taken people from the Bible, and have presented them in a super hero style.  you 2ill be introduced to people like  Faith Man,  The Runner (Jonah), my favorite, Dreadlocks, (Samson), Rainman (Noah) and there are many more that make up the Bible.

This is a very unique format, that will interest kids of all ages.  I feel it could be used to lead some into reading their Bibles more, after sparking their interests in this unique style.   I would use this in a Sunday School setting, to help teach some lessons, giving a great new twist on the lessons, or even at home for a different type of devotion time.



The story of the Bible is a unique tale of origins and cosmic powers; of the ageless battle between good and evil; of human potential and human treachery; and of a Messiah--a savior for the world. This is indeed the stuff that graphic novels are made of. Superheroes are the biggest comic genre of all, with many heroes having their origins in biblical characterization and imagery. This is the first Bible retelling to engage with and challenge the superhero genre. - See more at: http://www.kregel.com/siku-richard-thomas/the-lion-comic-book-hero-bible-2/#sthash.nEl7yaJU.dpuf
  I received this book free from the publisher.  Kregel.com     I was not required to write a positive review and the opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”







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Saturday, April 25, 2015

Why I Haven't Been Posting Lately

These are my daughters words about what happened in my life
She wasn't supposed to wake up ever again, BUT GOD had other plans! My mom went into surgery yesterday and it was supposed to be a 5-6 hour surgery and it ended up being 8 hours. The doctors did everything they could but in the end they said she woild only last three days. The mess in her brain was a lot the swelling was completely filling her skull (sparing some yucky details). She was on the ventilator in the ICU and during the course of the night (early morning) she began ...


She wasn't supposed to wake up ever again, BUT GOD had other plans! My mom went into surgery yesterday and it was supposed to be a 5-6 hour surgery and it ended up being 8 hours. The doctors did everything they could but in the end they said she woild only last three days. The mess in her brain was a lot the swelling was completely filling her skull (sparing some yucky details). She was on the ventilator in the ICU and during the course of the night (early morning) she began to move! The doctors and nurses and Dad gathered around her bed and started asking her questions, she answered them all correctly! Pretty soon she asked for Dads hand and she spelled the letters D-R-Y and pointed to the tube in her throat. She was thirsty. Later on today they took the tube out. She is talking! She wasn't supposed to be able to see but she can! Her personality is still the same! She still remembers everything! She can hear and carry on conversations!
God is so good! He worked a miracle.
The doctors said there was no way she was going to make it. She is even still steadily improving! She cannot move her left side very much and her peripheral view on the left side is gone. But she is still herself.
She had a 2"x2" section of her skull removed above her ear on the right side to clean out the infections (there were two which is very unusual). No cancer though!
I asked her if I could take her picture to share to show everyone how well she is looking and she said yes and tell them about my smurf hat and my lip! Her lip got bumped or cut or something during the surgery and it puffed up. So her is the picture she has such good color and rosy cheeks.
Thank you for praying! This is the results of your prayers! A miracle. God gave is a miracle!
She asked me to ask for continued prayer as she re-learns how to use her left side and walk. There is still a long way to go but praise God she came through it! And She is eating very well!
This is the power of God the Great Physician and the POWER of PRAYER!
Thank you so much for praying! Please continue!
God is so good!


She wasn't supposed to wake up ever again, BUT GOD had other plans! My mom went into surgery yesterday and it was supposed to be a 5-6 hour surgery and it ended up being 8 hours. The doctors did everything they could but in the end they said she woild only last three days. The mess in her brain was a lot the swelling was completely filling her skull (sparing some yucky details). She was on the ventilator in the ICU and during the course of the night (early morning) she began to move! The doctors and nurses and Dad gathered around her bed and started asking her questions, she answered them all correctly! Pretty soon she asked for Dads hand and she spelled the letters D-R-Y and pointed to the tube in her throat. She was thirsty. Later on today they took the tube out. She is talking! She wasn't supposed to be able to see but she can! Her personality is still the same! She still remembers everything! She can hear and carry on conversations!
God is so good! He worked a miracle.

The doctors said there was no way she was going to make it. She is even still steadily improving! She cannot move her left side very much and her peripheral view on the left side is gone. But she is still herself.
She had a 2"x2" section of her skull removed above her ear on the right side to clean out the infections (there were two which is very unusual). No cancer though!
I asked her if I could take her picture to share to show everyone how well she is looking and she said yes and tell them about my smurf hat and my lip! Her lip got bumped or cut or something during the surgery and it puffed up. So her is the picture she has such good color and rosy cheeks.
Thank you for praying! This is the results of your prayers! A miracle. God gave is a miracle!
She asked me to ask for continued prayer as she re-learns how to use her left side and walk. There is still a long way to go but praise God she came through it! And She is eating very well!
This is the power of God the Great Physician and the POWER of PRAYER!
Thank you so much for praying! Please continue!


October 8,2015... As I heal and get used to my "new normal" am beginning to review books, and hope that I will be able to begin posting on my blog soon; as time and energy permits.
I am home now, released from all IV therapy and working on healing and getting used to our new "normal" in life.  God has been good, and we will see where He leads us in the next year.



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Wednesday, January 15, 2014

Proverbs 31 Woman


So who is this Proverbs 31 woman?  We strive to be like her, and get down on ourselves when we can't.    In the next few postings, I would like to examine this woman and many of the other women in the Bible.

Everyone thinks that they cannot become this "perfect"
woman, when in fact if you stop and think about it, we can in fact accomplish this role.

Lets look at the 10 virtues of this woman:

1. Faith - A Virtuous Woman serves God with all of her heart, mind, and soul. She seeks His will for her life and follows His ways. (Proverbs 31: 26, Proverbs 31: 29 – 31, Matthew 22: 37, John 14: 15, Psalm 119: 15)
This is the easy one, all we need to do is love God and devote ourselves to Him
2. Marriage – A Virtuous Woman respects her husband. She does him good all the days of her life. She is trustworthy and a helpmeet. (Proverbs 31: 11- 12, Proverbs 31: 23, Proverbs 31: 28, 1 Peter 3, Ephesians 5, Genesis2: 18)
 This one is a bit harder isn't it?  Respect our husbands?  YES!  We put them above ourselves and love them as we love Christ.  
3.  Mothering - A Virtuous Woman teaches her children the ways of her Father in heaven.  her children with the love of Christ, disciplines them with care and wisdom, and trains them in the way they should go. (Proverbs 31: 28, Proverbs 31: 26, Proverbs 22: 6, Deuteronomy 6, Luke 18: 16)

4. Health – A Virtuous Woman cares for her body. She prepares healthy food for her family. (Proverbs 31: 14 – 15, Proverbs 31: 17, 1 Corinthians 6: 19, Genesis 1: 29, Daniel 1, Leviticus 11)

5. Service - A Virtuous Woman serves her husband, her family, her friends, and her neighbors with a gentle and loving spirit. She is charitable. (Proverbs 31: 12, Proverbs 31: 15, Proverbs 31: 20, 1 Corinthians 13: 13)

6. Finances - A Virtuous Woman seeks her husband’s approval before making purchases and spends money wisely. She is careful to purchase quality items which her family needs. (Proverbs 31: 14, Proverbs 31: 16, Proverbs 31: 18, 1 Timothy 6: 10, Ephesians 5: 23, Deuteronomy 14: 22, Numbers 18: 26)

7.  Industry – A Virtuous Woman works willingly with her hands. She sings praises to God and does not grumble while completing her tasks. (Proverbs 31: 13, Proverbs 31: 16, Proverbs 31: 24, Proverbs 31: 31, Philippians 2: 14)
8. Homemaking – A Virtuous Woman is a homemaker. She creates an inviting atmosphere of warmth and love for her family and guests. She uses hospitality to minister to those around her. (Proverbs 31: 15, Proverbs 31: 20 – 22, Proverbs 31: 27, Titus 2: 5, 1 Peter 4: 9, Hebrews 13: 2)

9. Time - A Virtuous Woman uses her time wisely. She works diligently to complete her daily tasks. She does not spend time dwelling on those things that do not please the Lord. (Proverbs 31: 13, Proverbs 31: 19, Proverbs 31: 27, Ecclesiastes 3, Proverbs 16: 9, Philippians 4:8 )

This is another one we must watch out for Ladies!
10. Beauty – A Virtuous  Woman is a woman of worth and beauty. She has the inner beauty that only comes from Christ. She uses her creativity and sense of style to create beauty in her life and the lives of her loved ones. (Proverbs 31: 10Proverbs 31: 21 – 22, Proverbs 31: 24 -25, Isaiah 61: 10, 1 Timothy 2: 9, 1 Peter 3: 1 – 6)

I do believe that we as Godly woman can do this... and in doing this we can show our daughters how to grow into Godly women.  We will also show our sons what to look for in a Godly wife.  

We must put the world behind us and God before us, and show the world what the Proverbs 31 woman looks like!